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Taking On The Step Parenting Role
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Being a step parent is not easy, not by a long shot. Just ask anyone who's done it. It's a tough job. Anyone who tells you it's easy is lying. Parenting in itself is hard enough. Step parenting can be even tougher.

There are a lot of emotional issues that come into play. The breakup of the family unit is very tough on children, especially young children. Divorce can wreak havoc on the family unit.

Children can be made to feel unwanted, hurt, angry or any of a range of emotions. Maybe the child was closer to the departed parent and feels a great sense of loss. He or she feels like there can no longer be a bonding since that parent has left. Maybe that parent has moved to a different city or a different state, or country. So there's that physical removal of that parent.

When a new adult steps into the picture it can be emotional for everyone involved. There can be a lot of resentment towards this person. Like, "Oh, he's not our daddy" or "She's not our mommy". Non-acceptance of this new person is quite common.

It takes a lot of patience and perserverance on the step parent's part to make step parenting work. The step parent cannot have thin skin. If you do have thin skin, it would not be advisable to take on a step parenting role. A lot of things are going to be said and done to him or her. The step parent is going to have to endure a lot to make it work. Like the saying goes, "if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen". A step parent is going to have to endure a lot of heat. There's no two ways about it. Step parenting is tough work.

If the step parent stays the course and gradually gains acceptance from the child/children that can be the greatest feeling of all. That would be quite an achievement. To be a successful step parent is like performing a balancing act. You're not the biological parent, but you are an adult figure in the family. Hopefully you're a good role model and a friend. Someone who's there for the children. Someone who's there to patch up a skinned knee,attend plays, ballgames, graduations.All the important things. Some-one who's there to listen, to be supportive, give guidance when needed.

It takes a special person to make step parenting work.A successful step parent is a special person indeed.


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Gail6  

True indeed!

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