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Choosing A Bridal Party: Eenie, Meenie, Miney, No!
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For many brides, choosing the bridal party can be the easiest part of planning her entire wedding. Everyone knows that her very best friend since kindergarten will be her maid of honor, and her other friends, her sister and her favorite cousin will round the party out. Bingo, bango, done.

On the other hand, some brides will sweat over choosing the bridal party nearly as much as they did over picking their wedding dress and the cake. They will want to choose the friends that they love best, but will not outshine them. In some circle of friends, there will be some sort of drama that will have to be thought about. So, Ashley and Marnie hate each other right now. Darla and Sherri both dated the best man. Dianne is going to be Dave in a matter of time. There is always something. And then finally, there is the bride who is really insecure about her looks and only wants to have ugly girls in her bridal party. The choices can become staggering.

If you are choosing your bridal party simply by friendship or family ties, then your decisions will be slightly easier for you. If you are simply going to thin the herd, so to speak and don’t really have any specific emotional motives, then consider some of the following:

1. Choose your bridal party according to size. Although that may seem incredibly insensitive, the reasoning is simple: it cuts down on trying to figure out the correct bridesmaid gown styles that will work for everybody. If you are a tall bride, choose bridesmaids who are all about the same height or as close to possible. The same goes for a petite bride. Larger sized brides may feel more comfortable with larger framed bridesmaids as well.

2. Make sure that your bridesmaids are age appropriate unless you have opted to include your own children, your step children or favorite nieces in the bridal party.

3. Consider the true feelings and nature of your friends before you even ask them to be part of your bridal party. Will your goth friend really feel comfortable slipping into pink taffeta and satin shoes for the day? Don’t make your friends uncomfortable by trying to force them into something that they do not want to do.

In the end, who you ask is up to you, the bride. If one or more of your choices say no, then have a secondary choice in mind, but make sure that you do not tell them that is the case. Accept no responses with good graces. And make sure that the ones who say yes will be willing to put aside their petty differences and squabbles for the day, or at least for the ceremony. Now, go. I think Ashley just set Marnie’s hair on fire.


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